Earlier this year, I met with a young woman who was questioning what to do in college and where to take her career. We’ll call her Abigail. Abigail explained the stresses of potentially being the first person in her family to go to college and the pressure she felt to do everything right. Both she and her family had thought since the age of five that she would become a nurse, but now she was afraid to accept that her passions fell elsewhere. The fear of switching paths and making a mistake was consuming her. Abigail’s position was palpable— I could feel the weight on her shoulders. But despite her pressures and fears, Abigail sought guidance, mentorship, and help to shape her next steps.

Abigail’s story inspired me. At just 17 years old, she dared to question her path and the path her parents wanted for her. She reached out, asked the right questions, and worked to create a new plan to give her passion, energy, and motivation. She was determined to go above and beyond to become the high achiever she set out to be.

The frustrations Abigail dealt with are not uncommon. So many of us have questioned our paths and positions but rarely do we dig deeper to see how our plan aligns with the person we are today and, more importantly, the person we want to be in the future. Instead, we go through the motions, never questioning the thoughts that dominate our minds, the beliefs that no longer serve us, or the actions that take us further from where we strive to be. As a result, we live a reactionary life based on old patterns.

Expanding the Horizon: Beyond Traditional Paths

Abigail’s dilemma highlights a crucial point: the importance of aligning our career choices with our evolving identities and passions. Often, societal or familial expectations set us on a path that may not resonate with our true selves. It's essential to regularly assess if our current trajectory genuinely aligns with our evolving interests and strengths.

Breaking Free from the Mold

The fear of deviating from a pre-determined path is daunting, particularly when it involves breaking familial or cultural norms. However, the courage to pursue a path that feels authentic can lead to greater satisfaction and success. It’s about honoring our unique talents and inclinations, and daring to tread a path less followed.

The Power of Mentoring and Guidance

Abigail’s decision to seek mentorship was a pivotal step. A mentor can offer perspective, encouragement, and invaluable advice drawn from their experiences. They can act as a sounding board, helping to navigate the complexities of career decisions and personal growth.

Creating an Evolving Strategy

The way to combat a life of default choices is to create an intentional, evolving strategy. I have seen time and time again the power that a personal strategy can have. The highest achievers constantly question their preconceived notions and adapt their plans accordingly. They frequently raise their own level of performance and, as a result, find sustainable energy and passion that keeps them going.

Crafting Your Strategic Plan

If you feel inspired to take action, here is my challenge: sit down and craft a strategic plan for your career and life. Consider the following steps:

• Self-Assessment: Reflect on your strengths, interests, and values. What truly excites you? What are you naturally good at?

• Goal Setting: Based on your self-assessment, set long-term and short-term goals. Ensure they are specific, measurable, and aligned with your personal values.

• Action Plan: Break down your goals into actionable steps. Determine what skills you need to develop, what resources you need, and who can support you in your journey.

• Regular Review and Adaptation: Life is dynamic, and so are you. Regularly review your plan and be open to adapting it as you grow and learn.

I promise you, taking the time to create a strategic plan for your career and life will introduce new levels of confidence, fulfillment, and success. It will prove to be the difference maker in your life and career.